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Anonymous sent: I need an opinion. I'm on the heavier side and I'm REALLY sensitive about it. I have the SWEETEST boyfriend in the world with only the best intentions and one day he said "It's okay that you're a little chubby." and.. I just sunk. I know the word "chubby" is supposed to be a positive word for overweight people but for ME it's an ugly word. It's a word that just reminds me that I'm NOT okay with my body.. I know I need to accept myself but it's hard when people point out the one thing I hate.

babe dont worry, the road to self-acceptance is long!! and it’s different for everybody!! you shouldn’t feel ashamed at all, we all go through different steps to loving ourselves, and just bc you don’t follow the same steps are someone else doesn’t mean a single thing besides you still have some stretch of road to cross

i’d suggest talking to yr bf about the matter!! telling him something like, “right now i’m not v confident in my body so i would appreciate you not bringing it up” might work? just let him know that topics like that aren’t something you’d like to discuss.

don’t worry hon, someday you’ll get there. we’re all different in our own ways, and some of us are more sensitive to words than others, and that’s fine bc we all come from different places in body-acceptance.

/pets yr hair

~tarlia

Anonymous sent: As someone who's been reblogged to creepy BBW blogs, I can say being "loved" for my body is creepy and I hate it. It isnt love, it's fetishization and it's uncomfortable + dehumanizing. Imo, from what I have felt, there is a HUGE difference between feeling like I am sexy and someone is appreciating that, and being fetishized, and it largely has to do with my agency in the situation. My body being sexualized by being reblogged to a BBW blog when its just an OOTD shot or selfie is creepy.

ty for yr input hon!!

ysaking sent: It's definitely wrong to hate someone for their body type, but is it right to LOVE someone for it? Think about it.

i can’t tell if this is supposed to be a sarcastic ask or a genuine question, so i’ll just answer both since i’m kind of confused by your wording.

if it’s sarcastic: this blog is for appreciating fat bodies in a media that typically shuns them. this blog is to help other fat/chubby ppl appreciate themselves as cute, since most anime/”kawaii” culture in general seems to praise thin-bodied ppl and exclude us chubbers and fatties. so yeah, we fucking love our fat and chubby siblings and that body type is loved here, thank you. 

if it’s a genuine question: loving someone for their body type is really an individual-thing. like if someone loved me solely for how i looked, i’d be pissed. however maybe someone likes being adored for how they look, and that’s just fine too. it depends on the person, there’s no universal answer really.

and of course if anyone wants to comment on this pls feel free~

~mod tarlia

landofallart:

Figure drawing! I’m trying a new method of soft digital coloring and I really like it so far. She kinda reminds me of Da Vinci’s “Head of a Woman” similar color any way. Need to draw more fat women. <3

landofallart:

Figure drawing! I’m trying a new method of soft digital coloring and I really like it so far. She kinda reminds me of Da Vinci’s “Head of a Woman” similar color any way. Need to draw more fat women. <3

landofallart:

I don’t like Katy Perry’s gross ally-ness but I am listeing to “Roar” on repeat. Hence the drawing. 

landofallart:

I don’t like Katy Perry’s gross ally-ness but I am listeing to “Roar” on repeat. Hence the drawing. 

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giddytf2:

kendrawcandraw:

Only thing I’m worried about pulling off is my earrings ‘cause we’re fighting bitch

I’ve never understood the policing of women’s clothing based on body size. A classy, sexy look isn’t dependent on a woman’s body size, it’s dependent on the clothing’s correct size. Thin women can end up looking really unclassy too when they wear ill-fitting clothes. What, did you think muffin tops are limited only to big-sized women, or that all thin women automatically look great in butt-baring short shorts and transparent tops? Pfft.

giddytf2:

kendrawcandraw:

Only thing I’m worried about pulling off is my earrings ‘cause we’re fighting bitch

I’ve never understood the policing of women’s clothing based on body size. A classy, sexy look isn’t dependent on a woman’s body size, it’s dependent on the clothing’s correct size. Thin women can end up looking really unclassy too when they wear ill-fitting clothes. What, did you think muffin tops are limited only to big-sized women, or that all thin women automatically look great in butt-baring short shorts and transparent tops? Pfft.